My husband and I always talked about how we wouldn't be the type of parents to post endless amounts of photos of our children on the Internet. And thankfully we have lived up to that notion. That's not to say we haven't rethought our posts more and more lately especially after reading a fellow mom's thoughts on the posting of her own children's photos. It has caused us to revisit our prior thoughts on social media and the raising of our children. Here is the post that truly hit home for us as well as articulated some thoughts of my own in a way I never really could find words for:
I believe, as one of the first generations of mothers having to navigate these uncharted waters of social media, we mothers and believers need to voice ourselves in various ways to help guide others in nourishing, caring, understanding ways while being cognitive of the very real dangers around us as protectors.
"Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God."-Titus 2:3-5
Although we may see our posts as beautiful memories, treasured precious moments, we can't control the way they are percieved or judged. My baby girl was born with a clean slate and others will most definately assign thier own judgements, thoughts and ideas about they way she 'is' or is being raised. My role is to do my best to remain strong and courageous with fear and trembling as mother, protector, guider and sister in Christ. Although I am still navigating what that means, you may also as well begin to see less and less of my baby/babies until they are at an age of consent.
Because I do truly love photography, I will of course continue to do my best by sharing what is important to me like:
healthy eating and recipes
engaging with various communities
life-giving ingredients and nutrition
That may simply mean getting more creative at creating the things that we support. This may also mean you may see less and less of our images on social media.
Identity and Value
My husband and I, as Artists, tend to be very visual in telling a story. I have done so with my past work in MLoveStudio.com as a way to express myself, journal things the Lord has done in my life and has brought me out of. It was a way to heal, reflect and in some way hopes to connect and be a vehicle to help others find healing and salvation in Christ. I have found art very therapeutic and in some of my work I look back at and see a person who was very broken and has now passed away. At times early in my Art career, I felt like I was only as good as my last masterpiece. My reason for creating became a need to be accepted or valued by my peers. It became no longer about expression, passion or an outlet of my thoughts and more so about getting into the next best gallery, interviewed by the next magazine, or show alongside the latest buzzed about Artist. It's easy to drift with dead fishes if you're no longer living for Christ.
“Never forget that only dead fish swim with the stream.” ― Malcolm Muggeridge
Even now, I find myself drifting into keeping up with my own social media image and consistancy. One that is a place of artistic expression and has helped a few people here and there on thought processes in motherhood, birth, healthy eating, etc. Yes those are great things to help pass along but it can also be a place of incarceration for me and/or anyone who has great social media platform displaying their life, art, work, family, etc.
"The best way to keep a prisoner from escaping is to make sure he never knows he's in prison." -Fyodor Dostoevsky
Social media is another medium of art. It is a way we display our translation of life. Some are merry and bright, while others are playful or dark or a various array of self exhibitions. I have found it to be a great vehicle for outreach while also in times of instinct or conviction found it to be displacement of value and identity.
"At first, art imitates life. Then life will imitate art.Then life will find its very existence from the arts."-Fyodor Dostoevsky
All this being said, there is a great balance we all should be weary of and tread forward carefully. For us believers we'll be held accountable in our convictions and there are serious things at risk. I don't know what exactly this all may mean for my future posts but there will definitely be some changes on content I choose to post up and navigate in the near future.
How do you navigate?
I would love to hear from all of you who are navigating these new waters as a mother, believer, family, etc. What are your concerns, adjustments, suggestions?
Hi, I'm Melissa I want you to gain back your confidence & energy in the way you think, speak and act through life-giving decisions. Health is an excellent way to exercise stewardship for the service of others.
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